tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4890116916599044330.post3782081577705552092..comments2023-05-18T04:37:18.390-07:00Comments on Reverend Tommy Gunn's Dating Tips for Tossers: Who Thinks Rape Is Okay?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12947098126157386700noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4890116916599044330.post-24265837400335543542015-01-20T04:01:50.960-08:002015-01-20T04:01:50.960-08:00I do have to agree with you Reverend. I myself was...I do have to agree with you Reverend. I myself was taught and have upheld this, that under no circumstances would I engage in ANY activity with someone under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Even if it was the slightest. To try and do something with someone like that is extremely disrespectful and could come back and bite you in the rear later. If I found myself in a spot where I had to get someone to bed that was drunk (which I have had to do) I always made sure I had a female friend escort me to their room and watch me put them in bed and leave.I can remember one time where I was also drunk at home and a friend came over drunk. She pulled me to my room laid down and passed out. I walked out of the room, locking the door behind me, left a note on the door telling her I was at my neighbors and left the house. I ended up waking up the next morning on my neighbors couch to my phone ringing from my friend thanking for not doing anything with her. To force yourself on someone who is drunk or unable to to think clearly is not only stupid but shows the world you are no type of person at all. Your basically announcing you are a monster and can never be trusted.<br /><br />Reverend thank you for sharing this. Your friend ReaperCharleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04226639477547756156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4890116916599044330.post-86001235044852856102015-01-19T20:34:54.482-08:002015-01-19T20:34:54.482-08:00Thank you so much for sharing Lizzy! Truth is so i...Thank you so much for sharing Lizzy! Truth is so important -- and thank you for sharing yours with us. It is really awful that society (for lack of a better word) make it so bad for the people who report rape. Is unfair. Is ridiculous! Very little makes me as angry as that does...<br />I hope everyone will talk about it and together we can do something positive every day.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947098126157386700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4890116916599044330.post-22352229152963533452015-01-19T14:26:21.132-08:002015-01-19T14:26:21.132-08:00I wish I could say that the article was surprising...I wish I could say that the article was surprising.... but it isn't. Too many boys/men are not taught that non-consensual is the same as rape. That means everything from "no" to "passed out" and everything in between. Period. <br /><br />From my own experience I have been in the position where I was a bit more inebriated than I probably should have been and damnit I wanted to. He wasn't going to because of my state (which is commendable), but I wasn't going to take "no" for an answer for ^that reason. "I don't want to" is one thing "you're too drunk" wasn't good enough. Did I regret it after? No. I had fun. So did he. There's something to be said for knowing the people you're messing around with and knowing where each other stands under sober circumstances. <br /><br />Which of course brings up the whole "it was okay before" excuse; which rolls back to "no means no". FINALLY some states are prosecuting men who rape their wives. A ring and a piece of paper are NOT a waiver of any sort. A persons body is still their own and forcing oneself on another is never acceptable... Unless it's consensual. Some people are into that.<br /><br />Sorry, that feels like it was a little all over the place. My mom was raped several times when she was in the army and being the 70s... reporting it just made things worse. So I've had some pretty strong opinions on the matter for a very long time.<br /><br />The thing that really just grates on me is that most of these guys who think it's okay and/or don't view it as rape would feel so incredibly different if it was another guy forcing himself on them; but somehow it's different if they're doing it to a woman. The total lack of empathy is baffling.<br /><br />Kudos to you for, ya know, doing what any decent person would. I don't know if it's weird, but *two thumbs up*. Lizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02826865076276073773noreply@blogger.com