tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4890116916599044330.post7288073981095015856..comments2023-05-18T04:37:18.390-07:00Comments on Reverend Tommy Gunn's Dating Tips for Tossers: Apologies, Assault, Violence & HealingAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12947098126157386700noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4890116916599044330.post-55469335718994001432015-01-25T18:26:46.738-08:002015-01-25T18:26:46.738-08:00Here is a bonus that just appeared on Cracked.com ...Here is a bonus that just appeared on Cracked.com - 6 Viral Stories That Were Total BS (http://www.cracked.com/quick-fixes/1-in-3-men-love-rape-6-viral-stories-that-were-total-bs/). At the forefront is that the "1 in 3 Men Love Rape" story I sited at the beginning of that other article was a BS article. HOPEFULLY *that* version of reality is true...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947098126157386700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4890116916599044330.post-13298978434118797652015-01-23T12:55:04.605-08:002015-01-23T12:55:04.605-08:00I guess that makes us both self-centered jerks bec...I guess that makes us both self-centered jerks because that's always my first and true reaction as well. <br /><br />That article was very hard to read. I had to break three times. The most upsetting was how much time she had to spend in close proximity to her attacker during the court process. Is that normal in other kinds of cases? I really don't know, but it doesn't seem like it should be. Also, "what happened was God's way of breaking me down so I could go home to him". Seriously?! Anyone who believe that their supposedly "loving god" would get someone raped for any reason needs a long dunk in the holy water.<br /><br />Reason #1, though, especially hit me hard. I've known a lot of people who've been sexually assaulted and three of them specifically have told me that they HAD dealt with it. They were just fine and living their lives not even thinking about it. Until therapy. All of the crap and feelings and anxieties were all dredged up again... and left unresolved for various reasons. (therapist transferred, insurance ran out, etc) Yes, therapy is good, but if someone is genuinely fine then there's no reason to try and draw it all back out again. It's the victim's life and choice, no one else's.<br /><br />Also (last thing, I promise lol) I did see that "bogus" comment and I think it's wishful thinking. Or denial. Even joking about rape means that some part of them thinks it's no big deal. Or, at the very least, not as big a deal as it really, truly is.Lizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02826865076276073773noreply@blogger.com