Monday means blog entry.
Even though I am on the road (again) and swamped with stuff - I gotta keep up on this!
This morning I found out a good friend of mine and his wife got divorced last year. It is pretty sad news - they seemed so happy! I do not know - or even presume to know - what happened. I know they moved far away to be close to her family; and I am sure there was a lot of culture shock in living in a new place, and her having her family around more - those are the kinds of things that change relationships. Not always for the worst, of course. Just as often for the better.
But it reminds me that relationships take work! The only thing constant is change.
When I talk to folks who are always saying things like, "we are waiting until we achieve x, before we do y," or folks who have this checklist of achievements & goals that their prospective mate has to have attained to be considered, I am ALWAYS like: what is wrong with you?
That big house with the great property value? A single thing could ruin it all: bad neighbor moves in, disaster strikes, the bubble bursts...
Good job? Company gets sold, lay-offs happen, market changes & they go out of business...
Doesn't want (or wants) kids? Circumstances change, goals change, or just holding a baby puts the baby clock in countdown (I've seen it happen)...
Good career or prospects? Goal oriented? That's all fine and good until they realize it is NOT what they want to do, or those goals change, or you all discover it does not pay what you thought it would.
Suddenly, you need to return home to take care of elderly parents. Suddenly, the feds show up and it turns out your boss has been stealing for the from the company and framed you for it. Suddenly, you find out someone you trusted has wrecked your credit because they've been stealing from you. It happens.
Humans biggest fault is that they think they can control what cannot be controlled: the future, the weather, human nature... Not gonna happen.
Once you fall off, you just have to get back on. 
Spot on as always. Two of my friends on facebook are obsessed with these "real men do this" and "relationships that" and I'm afraid I'll have to take them off of my feed soon because it's getting harder to hold back. I don't know where people get their ideas from, but it's certainly not this place called reality...
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