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Since starting this blog, I have spent some time perusing websites and blogs for tips on dating - trying to weed through what I think is good advice, and what is not. There is some great advice out there!
There is also some really horrible advice. Some of the worst advice I have seen was the advice to fake confidence if you do not have it. This is something I definitely disagree with! Confidence should be your main goal at all times.
This week I really began working on habits with my children. We created a calendar for them to track how long their daily practice sessions last (if you did not know, my son is the world's youngest professional knife thrower). The idea with this calendar is, of course, to help build habits of regular practicing with them.
Creating habits is the most important thing to do. Creating confidence is a habit!
There is nothing more attractive than confidence. Confidence in your self. Confidence in your books. Confidence in what you do. And all of that has to come from within, it is something that cannot be influenced by the outside as much as people often feel it is.
Make no mistake, certainly there are those who mistake confidence for pride. Or mistake it for being overbearing or overconfident. I am afraid that a lot of people in the world do not know what real confidence looks like, because the world is so caught up in bragging. It is not bragging to own up to your accomplishments. It is not bragging when you list your credentials in an argument or discussion to prove that you know what you are talking about.
It is confidence that allows me to run my business, what allows me to search for new business, and why I finished graduate school. It is confidence that allows me to step in front of any audience any time even with no notice, and put on a great show for them. I worked a very long time to gain confidence in my abilities and skills. Because, of course, I worked on them, nurtured them, and made them what they are today.
It is that confidence that made of my children's mother be attracted to me. It is that confidence that makes people like me when they see me on stage. I don't need to fake it, and I realize how powerful real confidence is. I want you to have that same confidence in your self! Just like I want my children to have it as well.
There is no reason for you not to be confident right now. I'm not saying go and boast about all of the cool things you have done, I am saying that you should always look at your accomplishments, and take some pride in them.
Do not be afraid to look in a mirror, look in your own eyes, and let your self have the confidence that you should. Know that in the world there are a lot of people who, for what ever reason, will not allow themselves to have confidence in what they do and who they are. And that is what it boils down to, not letting someone else dictate whether or not you are confident. That confidence has to come from inside you.
Do not let some other person dictate to you whether or not you should be confident. The key the confidence is knowing your self.
There is real power in knowing your self and being confident in your abilities, your looks, and your self. Explore those possibilities! You are never going to be good at dating someone else, unless you are happy with your self!